A follow up for the story of the first post
What would you describe a relationship as? I would desribe it as a pot of tea.
It has many different kind and different people will have different likings.
Once the tea is brewed, it is hot and taste good.
If the tea is too bitter for one's liking, sweetener is needed.
When the tea turned cold. Heating up of the tea is needed.
After a few brewings, the tea tastes blend. At this time, one have to add in more tea leaves.
Like a relationship, it started out hot and sensual. The passion at its highest point.
After the 'honey-moon period', things go downhill. Arguements became more often than the usual sweet nothings. This is when the sweetener is needed. Keep the passion alive, put your effort in the sweet nothings rather than the bitter arguements.
As a human beings, we usually take things for granted. Appreciation for the effort of the other will suddenly went missing. And this is the time where the two have to put in the effort, to heat up the tea, to arise the enthusiasm.
Lastly, people may get used to what is revolving around them in life and boredness may come into the picture. And this is when more tea leaves should be added.
Without all these efforts, this pot of tea will only end their fate by going down the sewer
In my case, we loved, we hated and we tried real hard for this relationship.
We have had happy moments; sad times; quarrels and sweetness.
There are thoughts of giving up. We still held onto each other tightly.
We supported one another through the roughness of life. Adding sweetener along the way.
However, other than the love and the support from the couple, the blessings from others are needed too. Especially the more important people in life.
Perhaps its karma, perhaps its a test, perhaps its a curse. No one knows.
After a long way, the day came. Is it the end of the nightmare or the beginning of another? No one have the answer. We have broken up, for the sake of the big picture. Not giving anyone unhappiness as they don't like the thought of us being together. not giving the both of us any pressure.
It seems like a win-win situation but no one gets to know the heart-ache within. How long will this continue? Will we make it? Will we regret this decision? Only time can show us the answer.
Thursday, July 31, 2008
Sunday, July 27, 2008
Love Me
This is the first blog for this post - 27 July 2008,
And I'm facing a rough patch of life. No one could teach me what to do. And no one understood.
I had become alone, far away from the person in the past. I'm moving towards a much different future. I have gone into hiding, not meeting any good friends of the past. I do hope I could turn to them when I need a shelter. But everyone has their own life. No one will be able to spend all their time on me. Or in another way, I don't wish to bother others about my problems or worry about me.
Come on, time to start for this blog.
When we are younger, we believe in fairytales. When we hit adolescent, we started to get in touch with reality and as such adopting our own philosophies and deny the others. These philosophies or which may be called "principles" do change every now and then, but one could not be blamed for this. As at different stages of life, we meet with different encounters, different people, different happiness and different sadness. And all these changed us.
One of the philosophies that I have adopted when I'm younger is that, everything will come to you if it is destined to be yours. After much encounters, the confusion of this philosophy with the other "fight for your happiness!" occurs. Now, I adopted the latter.
People who had known me well for the past few years (let's say maybe 3 to 5 years?) probably would comment that my life could be written into a novel or even made into a drama. And no one could believe that it can turn even more dramatic, because I myself could not believe.
I thought the worst had past, I've managed to be with him. But I forgot that maintaining a relationship, it is not only us that I have to consider about.
Remember those movies depicting the era where many could not be with the one they truly love and parents will decide for their children's betrothal? I thought after the revolution, this would never happen again (maybe only to those families with reputation, with big businesses).
And here I am facing with this - I would say a traditional thinking. Not that my parents had me betrothed to someone I don't know but they are stopping me with this guy. Statement by my father: "You could find someone else, its ok if you bring one boyfriend every 3 months for our approval." Oh gosh! Can you imagine being with different man every 3 months just like the change of season? Haha.. Greatest joke!
And now I'm stuck here, doesn't know what the future holds for us. I know he's trying to slowly convince my parents. I too hope everything will turn out fine. Maybe a deity could appear and pull us out of this scenario.
Walking down this road together, with a tinge of determination lesser, all efforts of the past will be gone.
Let’s end the first post of the day with a song many had heard before - Love Me
http://www.imeem.com/purpletira/music/0uSf-fB4/collin_ray_love_me/
And I'm facing a rough patch of life. No one could teach me what to do. And no one understood.
I had become alone, far away from the person in the past. I'm moving towards a much different future. I have gone into hiding, not meeting any good friends of the past. I do hope I could turn to them when I need a shelter. But everyone has their own life. No one will be able to spend all their time on me. Or in another way, I don't wish to bother others about my problems or worry about me.
Come on, time to start for this blog.
When we are younger, we believe in fairytales. When we hit adolescent, we started to get in touch with reality and as such adopting our own philosophies and deny the others. These philosophies or which may be called "principles" do change every now and then, but one could not be blamed for this. As at different stages of life, we meet with different encounters, different people, different happiness and different sadness. And all these changed us.
One of the philosophies that I have adopted when I'm younger is that, everything will come to you if it is destined to be yours. After much encounters, the confusion of this philosophy with the other "fight for your happiness!" occurs. Now, I adopted the latter.
People who had known me well for the past few years (let's say maybe 3 to 5 years?) probably would comment that my life could be written into a novel or even made into a drama. And no one could believe that it can turn even more dramatic, because I myself could not believe.
I thought the worst had past, I've managed to be with him. But I forgot that maintaining a relationship, it is not only us that I have to consider about.
Remember those movies depicting the era where many could not be with the one they truly love and parents will decide for their children's betrothal? I thought after the revolution, this would never happen again (maybe only to those families with reputation, with big businesses).
And here I am facing with this - I would say a traditional thinking. Not that my parents had me betrothed to someone I don't know but they are stopping me with this guy. Statement by my father: "You could find someone else, its ok if you bring one boyfriend every 3 months for our approval." Oh gosh! Can you imagine being with different man every 3 months just like the change of season? Haha.. Greatest joke!
And now I'm stuck here, doesn't know what the future holds for us. I know he's trying to slowly convince my parents. I too hope everything will turn out fine. Maybe a deity could appear and pull us out of this scenario.
Walking down this road together, with a tinge of determination lesser, all efforts of the past will be gone.
Let’s end the first post of the day with a song many had heard before - Love Me
http://www.imeem.com/purpletira/music/0uSf-fB4/collin_ray_love_me/
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